Hey Lykkers! Have you ever finished a conversation and wondered if you came across as confident or uncertain? Sometimes, even when we know what we're talking about, the way we express ourselves can weaken our message.

Let's talk about 9 common speaking habits that might unintentionally make us seem less professional and how we can fix them to leave a stronger impression!

1. Don't Say “I Think” When You're Sure

Imagine asking your boss if they need anything before you head out, and they reply, “I think I'm good.” What does that mean? Are they sure or not? When we add “I think,” we water down our confidence. If you know something for sure, just say it. Instead of “I think it's done,” say “It's done.” This small change makes a big difference in how others perceive your certainty.

2. Stop Apologizing When It's Not Necessary

How often do we say, “Sorry to bother you” when we're just doing our job? Unless you've genuinely made a mistake or caused inconvenience, there's no need to apologize. Apologies should be saved for real errors. If you're asking a client a necessary question, replace “Sorry to bother you” with “Do you have a moment?” It's polite without undermining your confidence.

3. Avoid Self-Doubt in Your Openings

Starting with phrases like “I'm not sure if this is right, but…” instantly makes people doubt what you're saying. If you're uncertain, take a moment to gather your thoughts. But if you know your point is valid, just go for it. Saying “Here's what I suggest…” or “This approach might work…” sounds much more confident and direct.

4. Don't Undermine Yourself at the End

Ending with phrases like “I'm not sure though” or “Maybe I'm wrong” leaves a weak impression. Even experts can fall into this habit. For example, a doctor explaining surgery details and then saying, “Wow, I can't believe I know so much!” can make the patient question their competence. If you've shared helpful information, trust that it's valuable. Let your words stand on their own.

5. Skip Unnecessary Follow-Up Questions

We've all done this: “That seems fair, right?” or “This is the best option, isn't it?” These follow-up questions make it seem like you're unsure of your own opinion. If you believe something is fair or the best choice, say it confidently. People will be more likely to agree with you when you project certainty.

6. Watch Out for Harsh Language

When emotions run high, it's easy to blurt out something harsh. Even casual slang can give off a negative vibe. Using strong language may feel satisfying in the moment, but it damages your professional image. Instead, take a breath and choose words that reflect calmness and control. Your message will land better.

7. Cut Out Fillers and Hesitation Words

“Uh… um… I mean… like…” — We all use fillers when we're gathering our thoughts, but too many can make us seem unsure. Silence isn't your enemy. A short pause gives your words more weight. Instead of filling the space, allow yourself to pause and think. Your audience will appreciate the clarity.

8. Avoid Starting Sentences with “You Should”

Saying “You should…” can come off as pushy or critical. For example, “You should organize your work better” feels like a judgment. Try replacing it with “We could…” or “I suggest…” which invites collaboration and makes the conversation feel less confrontational.

9. Be Mindful of Gendered Language

Terms like “girl,” “lady,” or other nicknames may feel harmless, but they can carry unintended connotations of inequality. Using respectful, professional titles creates a more inclusive environment. Instead of saying, “Hey girl, can you help me?” simply ask by name or use “Could you help me, please?” It keeps things respectful and avoids misunderstandings.

Why These Small Changes Matter

Our words shape how others perceive us, and even small tweaks can transform how confident and professional we appear. By dropping unnecessary apologies, cutting out fillers, and speaking with certainty, we create stronger connections and gain more trust.

Let's Challenge Ourselves!

Lykkers, how many of these habits do you notice in yourself? Let's take a challenge this week — pick one or two habits to work on and see how much more confident you feel in your conversations. Trust me, people will notice the difference!

We're all on this journey together. Share your thoughts and experiences — I'd love to hear how these tips are helping you!